To fully embrace your onlyness requires you to first articulate those things within you that you 100% control. These elements are your inner self – they come to you naturally and make you you.
Read these articles if you want to learn how to articulate your inner self.
To answer this question, I want you to think of yourself as a house. Just like a house, you have a foundation, walls and a roof. For you, your foundation comes from within, where you… Read More »What do you want to be when you grow up?
If you set New Years resolutions, 2024 is the year you should have a word of the year instead. Your word encapsulates the year you want to have, allowing you to frame all decisions you… Read More »10 reasons you should have a word of the year
I recently spent one full month living in my favourite city in the world, New York City. This trip was a huge deal for me as living in NYC has been at the top of… Read More »New York City: 5 powerful life lessons
Success. It’s something we all strive for, whether it’s intentional or unintentional. A friend recently mentioned she finally feels successful from society’s perspective, which got me thinking about what it means, how we should define… Read More »Defining Success: 3 Things You Need to Know
Cool girl aesthetic is the latest ‘it’ trend on TikTok. Seeing it transition to mainstream media makes me laugh, as the “cool girl” can be all of us if we accept and embrace our onlyness.… Read More »How To Be The Cool Girl [Person]
The term Onlyness was coined by Nilofer Merchant to articulate a concept I also tried (and failed!) to express in my ‘Why’ article. In her book, The Power of Onlyness, Nilofer describes this concept as… Read More »How to embrace your onlyness
In life the only certainty is that we are born and we will die. What happens in between can either happen to us or be something we intentionally build. If you want to intentionally build… Read More »Reflect: 3 questions to build an intentional life
I recently shared the first iteration of the Self Paradox Framework. If you’re new to the concept, one simple question can help you identify the dominant self in your life: Who are you? We all… Read More »Who are you? How to find your dominant self
Browsing my local independent bookstore I stumbled on an interesting title: Big Dress Energy*. Even though we shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, the perfect shade of green and complimentary hot pink on the… Read More »Five ways fashion can unlock your authentic self
A new year means the societal pressure to immediately eliminate our bad habits and become the perfect version of ourselves. In reality it’s impossible to completely change yourself overnight so lets get rid of this… Read More »How to meaningfully reflect on the year
The Self Paradox Framework began in 2021 when my psychologist challenged me to figure out who I was outside my work. He told me we all have a professional and a personal self and my… Read More »The Self Paradox Framework: How to answer Who am I?
The stoics belong to the philosophy of stoicism, which originated in Ancient Greece and Rome in the 3rd century BCE. At its core, the original stoics aimed to live by three core principles: Even now,… Read More »Three stoic quotes and how they improved my life
Last year, I was asked to complete a biopsychosocial assessment. What surprised me was my average score for ‘coping skills’. Considering myself a resilient person I didn’t understand how I ‘struggled to adjust to stressors’.… Read More »How to use coping skills to increase your resilience
In 2021 I set out to find my personal values. Eight months later here are 4 lessons understanding my values has taught me: 1. Rejection is easier This alone should convince EVERYONE to find their… Read More »Why you need to understand your values
The more I delve into purpose, the more I understand the importance of values. Realising I needed to find my personal values was overwhelming. I had no idea where to start or why I should… Read More »Personal Values: How to find your place in the world
Forget about finding your purpose, instead find your why. Discovering the concept of why I realised I’d made a huge mistake in my previous attempts to find my purpose. I forgot what I already knew… Read More »Why: When you know, you find what makes you unique
Podcasts play an important role in my search for purpose and confidence (and the rest of my life). Now I understand my driving force is growth, this love makes complete sense. They let you learn… Read More »7 Podcasts That Actually Offer Practical Advice On Purpose & Confidence
As I search for my purpose, I’ve realised I need to challenge my scepticism around certain pseudosciences. Human design is one I’d never heard of but probably would have rolled my eyes if I had.… Read More »Human Design: Is it time to explore a pseudoscience?
In my last post, I started exploring the concept of purpose. However, my driving force of growth means I like knowledge, so I wanted to explore other approaches, including Ikigai. The Japanese concept roughly translates… Read More »Ikigai 2.0: The best way to quickly find your purpose?
I’ll admit, I’m a little nervous to answer the question ‘what is your purpose’. I’m introspective, but dedicating time to understand “why I was put on this earth” is a little daunting. At first, I… Read More »In the search for purpose is driving force actually useful?